Mum baffled as she’s told to dye children’s hair a ‘normal’ colour for party

A mum was ordered to stop dying her daughter’s hair purple if she wanted an invite to a schoolfriend’s birthday party, as the coloured hair would ‘draw attention’

When you’re in school, being one of the only people not to get an invite to a schoolfriend’s party can be hurtful – especially if you don’t get invited just because of the way you look.

But that’s the experience two young girls had when their friend’s mum said they could only go to her birthday party if they dyed their hair a “natural colour”.

The girls’ mum posted on Reddit to explain that she’s been dying both her daughters’ hair purple for several years, and they “love” their funky hair colour.

And while they initially did receive invites to their friend’s birthday party – which also happened to fall on the same day as Halloween – it came with the condition that they revert their purple locks back to their natural colour.

The mum wrote: “My daughters (aged 11 and 10) both have purple hair. They love it this way and have been getting it dyed since they were six (with caution).

“They were invited to a little girl’s birthday/Halloween party under the condition they have their hair dyed a natural colour. I asked why and the mother insisted their hair would take away from birthday pictures because they’d draw attention.

“I asked if my daughters could just not be in the pictures, and she said there’s no way to guarantee that and to either dye their hair a ‘normal’ colour or they can’t come.”

Instead, the mum decided to throw her own Halloween party for her daughters and some of their classmates.

But the move was slammed by the other girl’s mum, who said her daughter was “upset” she couldn’t come to the second party.

She added: “I decided to throw a party for my daughters on Halloween since they won’t be able to go to that one and invited her classmates (the girl was in a completely separate class). We had the party with a cake, bounce house, candy piñata and all that cool jazz. The girls had a blast, and I posted a few pictures online.

“Apparently this was the wrong move cause the little girl’s mother saw my post and asked what right I had to steal her daughter’s moment from her. Her daughter saw the pictures and was upset she didn’t get to come to the party because they didn’t have the things we did.

“Her mother said I was an a**hole for one upping her just because my kids couldn’t come to their party and that if I really wanted them there, I would’ve just dyed their hair.”

The mum’s post has received over 1,000 comments, and opinion is divided over whether she was “petty” to throw her own party.

One person said: “Technically you did nothing wrong and the birthday girl’s mum was an a**hole – but this still feels really petty in a dirty kind of way.”

But another disagreed, stating: “This woman had every right to have a party for her girls, who were deliberately excluded from the other party based on how they looked.”